Monday, March 14, 2011

One important thing about having friends

How do you process situations that you do not have experience in handling?  I am not talking about situations about right and wrong, but something that happens that you have do not have experience in handling.   I usually get a dumb look on my face like a cat who swallowed a canary.    It is a funny look that will get laughs because it is the type of look that a comedian will give.

For me the important thing is whether my friends will help me learn from the situation or laugh and walk away or to just not put me into that situation anymore.  When people see this and laugh and walk away it becomes real easy to build walls to keep this from happening again.  When people just avoid this from happening again then I never learn how to deal with it.  When friends help me learn how to process the situation, then I become more comfortable and will get better at handling the situation.   

A lone wolf will never learn how to handle public situations.  I know that I tried.  I immersed myself in Old Testament law, trying to learn right from wrong.  Reading though did not provide me with everything that I needed.  One thing that I found out is that I can only learn how to interact with people by interacting with them and having friends helping me to know how to handle situations that that I am not use to handling.
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  1. UnknownMarch 14, 2011 at 9:42 PM

    God sends us through trials in order to learn a lesson he wants us to learn either to better ourselves or those around us by being able to help them through a simular situation. If we don't share our lives with others we will not only continue to go through the same trials but we will never have the opportunity to learn from the trials and others around us.

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  2. Dennis SwintMarch 16, 2011 at 11:22 PM

    Kathy having friends is not only good for the big stuff like trials, but also the small awkward moments that you are not use to encountering.

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  3. PiskeyJanuary 10, 2012 at 6:08 PM

    Dennis, a friend that gets to know you will also know your looks and reactions. A true friend will be able to help explain things that may need clarification. You should be able to talk through what awkwardness you may feel with them and be able to understand the situation with their help. You may not end up with the same conclusion that your friend has, but friends are there to share knowledge and experiences as you do for them. Between this, live can be looked at in different ways, and even the same event you have been through before, make conclude in a totally different way due to the new knowledge and perspective.

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  4. Dennis SwintJanuary 10, 2012 at 9:17 PM

    Janit, I love and completely agree with what you said.

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