A boy in High School dates a girl, only to realize while on the date that she really likes someone else who is not going out with her. The boy really caring for that girl encourages the boy (that the girl likes) to ask her out and he does so and he and the girl end up as a couple. The first boy is glad that he did this but the circumstances put a hurt and a scar upon his heart that would last a lifetime.
You see this first boy had a hard time getting dates. When a girl did agree to go out with him it, he would notice others making fun of her. He knew when he encouraged his classmate to ask that girl out, it would probably mean that he would not be able to get a date to go to the Prom. After well over a hundred phone calls trying to get a date, his fears were proved correct and he ended up staying home prom night and the rest of the school year.
Dates were few and far between for the next few years, before he found someone who would go out with him, not once but several times. His fear of reliving the hurt that he had been through was so strong however that he became possessive of the girl. By doing this he caused the hurt that he was trying to prevent from happening to actually happen to himself.
Some would say that he got what he deserved. Others would say that perfect love drives out fear, so he did not really love the girl. Still others would say that if he had loved God correctly then he would have not had this fear and would have not had done these things. While there are truths in these sayings, they are also used to justify the sayers of not having a relationship with the man.
What would happen if someone (maybe the girl?) loved him with this perfect love. What if he could experience this from others? Is it possible that he could overcome his fear though the perfect love from another person?
I enjoy your blogs Dennis. Even though I had a steady boyfriend my senior year, dates before that did not come easily for me. I wish I had known you better in high school. And I personally don't believe there is a "perfect love".
ReplyDeleteThanks Tamara for your comment. As much as Corky talked about you (all good things) in High School, I felt like I knew you better than I really did. I agree with you that there is no perfect love between couples. The Perfect love that I was talking about is another way of describing God's love flowing through us to reach another person. I have actually been on two sides of this blog. I have been the one hurt and the one tossing accusations. I am glad that you have enjoyed reading these. I started writing these because I felt like I needed to express some thoughts and lessons that I have learned in life, and this seemed to be the best way of getting them out from inside of me. I did not know if anyone would read them or not but just being able to write them down and put them out there has really helped me. Thanks again.
ReplyDeleteThe prison of past hurts! It was only until I REALLY realized and could believe the depth of God's love for me AND how much he loves others, that I have been able to be free of this. However, I do have to be MINDFUL or the voices of those demons will deceive me.
ReplyDeleteRegena, that was beautifully wrote.
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